Don’t invite saboteurs into your life

One of the reasons I stay motivated to work so hard on so many books, programs, AI tools, and other major initiatives, including our investment firm, is to see feedback from our clients and readers on the difference it makes in their lives. It brightens my day to see the kind messages we get and helps me not pay attention to nasty messages from indecent people.

Here is an example of one of such messages:

Or this kind message I just received today about this week’s summit we run for our other business:

“Hi Kris,

I  have just taken your five days of learning and you got the best people and I have learned so much/ I can’t thank you enough. I truly believe that when I start using some of the things that I learned, I will become very successful. Thanks again to you and Ray.

Jennifer”

Of course, decent messages of appreciation are not the only kind I get. I remember a situation when a guy on LinkedIn I don’t know wrote to me asking for help. We used to reply to everyone who wrote asking for free advice. But in time, we learned that free advice is generally not valued or implemented anyway, so it is a waste of everyone’s time. But in this situation, I made a mistake of replying, providing information, and advice. Only to be insulted and disrespected in return. Something you never expect on LinkedIn.

In your life, you will have haters and you will have decent people who appreciate your work. Don’t let haters be heard beyond whatever little value you can get from their “constructive” criticism. Most importantly, do not let haters’ insults become something you repeat to yourself.

Don’t let haters’ words sip into your heart, your brain, your soul, and set up camp there.

Don’t let their words firmly imprint into your subconscious. Laugh at them and delete, delete, delete from your life.

Also, I trained myself to feel happy when I come across nasty people. I know this is life showing me something.

First, a person’s actions reveal to me if I want to have anything to do with them ever again. There were a number of clients we respectfully managed out of FIRMSconsulting because, based on their actions, it was not a good use of our time to work with them.

Second, when someone has the power to offend me, it helps me uncover what within me I need to work on so that it will become impossible to offend me in this way ever again.

It keeps you disciplined. Every time someone manages to hurt you, dig and understand why you gave them this power. Often, just shining a light on what is in your subconscious that gave this person the power to hurt you will make it very hard to offend you in this way again.

Most people I work with are very respectful of my time and my methods, and I appreciate it. But there are some people who are not worth my time.
And there are some people in your life who are not worth your time.

All evil advances to claim territory. Nothing little stays little. Hitler could have been stopped when he took his first, second, or even third evil action.

So do not tolerate evil in your life, be it unsupportive friends, disloyal partners, disrespectful employers, or abusive clients. Don’t let evil in your life expand from little to big to dominant.

If you look at your life, you will likely notice that most of the time, when someone displayed bad or destructive behavior towards you, it started at a much smaller level than what you allowed it to grow to.
You could have stopped it at the seed level.

In your life, in your business or career, in your family, do not permit even a teeny, tiny bit of evil. If you do, it will expand its influence and size.

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